Let me first say this…
You are not alone. Ever.
Back in August of 2013, I was sitting out on my front porch trying to process the idea that my oldest child was about to :
- Move out of our home.
- Move two hours away.
- Live in a city.
- Not be around for me to talk to on the daily.
- Leave a void in our family’s hearts so inexplicably vast.
Drama much? Yeah, that’s how I feel things. So deeply. Sometimes it’s a blessing and sometimes it seems more like a curse.
At any rate, I was trying to wrap my head around all this stuff when I decided to call my sister. Let it be noted that she is a real estate agent whose job never ends unless she turns the phone volume down (which she BARELY ever does).
So I called my sister to talk about my feelings, but before I could even get the first sentence out I started to cry. I cried loudly and for what seemed like a long time. I probably said some words but I couldn’t tell you what those words were.
When I calmed down, one of the best sisters anyone could ever have said ,” Sis, I’m with a client. Could I call you back?” Oh. My. Gosh! I thought I was going to die of embarrassment! I politely got off the phone (after apologizing profusely) and started to laugh loudly and for a long time.
I can’t tell you why things went down in the manner they did that day, but I did learn some things:
- Sometimes you just need your sister (or any go to friend).
- Laughing directly after sobbing is one of the BEST emotions (Steel Magnolias fans…you know what I’m talking about)!
- There are many ways to process difficult situations.
- Letting go is hard to do, but necessary.
- We aren’t in control anyways.
The next day, my husband and I were able to enjoy the day with our oldest, to help him navigate through what was probably an overwhelming day for him, AND there were no embarrassing tears from the mom of a college freshman! Win for all!
For all the mommas that are being asked to let go in one way or another:
You’ve GOT THIS and you are NEVER EVER alone!!